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There is always a mixed bag of emotions when you first date someone, including butterflies and excitement. However, as you transition to long-term status, the honeymoon phase wears off. A time comes no matter how happy you are; no amount of pillow talk or date nights seem to zhoosh things up. Things in your private room feel predictable and monotonous.

Luckily that doesn’t mean you can’t switch things up. It is a journey to sexual satisfaction that humans must traverse. Here are some ways how you can spice and reignite your relationship.

Try something new

Did you know breaking the rules and trying something new can rekindle the feelings associated with Limerence? Think about slipping away at a dinner party for a make-out session, taking a tennis lesson together, hiking or trying out a new restaurant. 

Trying out something new that sets a flurry of activity, which drives happiness to bring the mojo back.

Spice up your sexual expeditions

In the spirit of trying new stuff, you will also need to create some spark in your sex life. You can try something like setting a candle-lit setting to create the right mood. You can also try adding some toys in there. What most people don’t know is that sex toys are a novelty that most couples enjoy together. In fact, according to research, couples who use sex toys with one another tend to be more satisfied.

Yes, adult toys can spice things up in the bedroom by offering new forms of stimulation. For example, you can get the sucking vibrator to stimulate your partner for a mind-blowing experience. It will make things more fun in the bedroom!

Be consistent

Think about how you started your relationship. There was probably more touching, more sex, gifts, flowers, compliments and all the good stuff that glues the relationship. Once you stop, it begins to feel boring, lonely and dead. Try going back there to see what the both of you had been missing all this while. 

Be spontaneous

Everyone loves a little bit of spontaneity. For instance, instead of going to bed with your three-piece nightgown, try sleeping naked sometimes. If you are a man, you can decide to surprise her with flowers for no reason or go for dinner on a weekday. There is something about being spontaneous that screams hot. Don’t be too predictable; be willing to go with the tide.

Be interested and interesting

Another way to reignite your relationship is being genuinely interested in your partner. Be interested to find out how your partner is feeling, thinking, and doing. Let not all your conversations be about bills, kids, etc. 

Have other conversations, engage in interesting topics that help you to connect. Don’t be that person who never wants to listen to things that don’t interest them. Don’t constantly shut down your partner. Having time to talk, bond, listen, and connect makes the other person feel special and listened to.

Prioritize your primary relationship

Imagine this situation. You are happily married, have kids, and your weekend is filled with kid-related activities, house chores, etc. But it becomes almost impossible to talk about anything other than the “life logistics” in such a home. 

An occasional peck in the cheek or tap on the shoulder can slowly become your new romantic life. Being too busy creates a disconnect between couples; it is a recipe for growing apart. As a couple, you need to find time for the two of you to connect. Otherwise, getting wrapped in the day-to-day chaos of life can turn you into roommates and kill your relationship.

Final thoughts

It is normal for a relationship to feel boring and monotonous sometimes. However, it is up to you to spice things up and keep the fire burning. Other than the tips discussed above, you can also go on vacation, surprise one another, and focus on the positives instead of the negatives in your relationship.

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